Question Tuesday: Christian Feminist?

Question: Is feminism antithetical to Christianity? Check out my post over at Thinking through Christianity, and hit me up in the comments with your thoughts.

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Sould Christians Respect Obama?

Reblogged from speak what we feel:

The email below titled, “Should Christians Respect Obama?” was forwarded to me. Perhaps you’ve seen it too. (I have formatted the spacing to fit below; however, all emphases–bolds, italics, exclamation marks, words in all caps–are original.)

Dr. David Barton is more of a historian than a Biblical speaker, but very famous for his knowledge of historical facts as well as Biblical truths.

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It's voting season, a good time to remind ourselves of our responsibility toward respect for others (including politicians).
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Is It Wise?

Hi there. This has been on my mind for a while so I thought I should ask you about it. If I were to go on a vacation with my girlfriend, would it be ok to share the same room as in a twin room or even share a double bed? even though we wouldn’t ever consider sex of any sort? Thanks.

“Is it okay?” is what we always ask, but we’d probably be better asking Is it wise? I can’t answer that question for you because it’ll be different for everyone. Hopefully, I can help you answer it with some general principles.

So, it’s totally cheaper to share a room, and sometimes rooms with one double bed are cheaper still. I completely get why you’d want to share. You and your girlfriend need to consider your pasts, the specific struggles you have, your “record” together physically, and your goals for the future, then ask Is this wise? Your girlfriend should also take her ovulation cycle into consideration. God designed women to want sex most when we’re most fertile. Go figure.

Let me set up some examples. If one or both of you have had sex before, it might not be wise to put yourselves in this situation. It’d be like having an AA meeting in a bar. Dumb. If you find yourselves already having a hard time “stopping,” it’s not a good idea. It is a good idea to discuss boundaries together while being honest about how each can serve the other best: ie. How can I make it easier for you and not harder? That might mean being strict about changing and showering and leaving underwear out and about. It might mean choosing not to give backrubs, choosing not to cuddle in bed, choosing to only kiss in public… Like I said, I can’t make those choices for you, only the two of you, and perhaps someone who knows you(r past and present struggles and future hopes and dreams) better than I do, can make and help make those choices. What I do know, is that no matter how silly something seems, don’t be proud. The strong person knows him or herself and has the courage to do what’s necessary. It’s the weak ones who scoff at boundaries and think they can handle it.

One more thought. While your minds might not “ever consider sex of any sort,” your bodies certainly are. If abstaining from stuff that feels good but isn’t good (like extramarital sex) were up to the mind, or the will, it would be a lot easier to avoid. So, listen to the signals your bodies are giving, be honest with yourselves about what’s going on, and be prepared to do what’s necessary to protect yourselves even though it feels silly. For example, if you decide to share a room and realize that it isn’t as safe for the two of you and your goals for the future as you thought it would be, don’t be too proud or practical to make changes.

Hope that’s helpful.
Renea

Learning to ask Is it wise? is an idea that, for me, comes from Andy Stanley’s book called The Best Question Ever, which is really youthy and annoying in many ways, but which nonetheless provides a helpful premise.
Other thoughts that influenced this post come from Lauren Winner’s Real Sex, about which I’m not sure I could find anything negative to say.
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Question Tuesday: Summer Blockbusters

Summer is The Season (of weddings), but it is often also the season of a lot of great box office hits. What movies are you looking forward to this summer?

Here’s a few “now playing” I’d like to see:

Tim Burton’s Dark Shadows. I have to admit, this isn’t usually my style, but I saw the previews, and it looks hilarious.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel: Its star-studded cast of British favourites says it all.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Can you believe I still haven’t seen The Avengers? Well, I’m looking to remedy that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finally, I love me some claymation, and Sony’s The Pirates! Band of Misfits is just the thing to help me get my fix.

 

 

What about you? What are you anticipating this season?

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