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“How did black people get created?” | speak what we feel — Tue, 29 May 2012 05:10:21 +0000

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Comment on Is It Wise? by reneamac

reneamac — Fri, 25 May 2012 17:08:30 +0000

Yep. Good, good thoughts. “The longer I’m married, the more conservative I become regarding sexual activity [which I take to have a highly inclusive meaning here] before marriage.” I certainly respect that.

Love to you!!

Comment on Is It Wise? by Rhett & Valerie

Rhett & Valerie — Fri, 25 May 2012 16:34:34 +0000

Hey you! The feelings described above by the “future” spouse aren’t necessarily the way the person *should* feel (though- I dunno- your body belongs to them so maybe they should!)- I think I was trying to say that they *might* feel this way, and if that could give you pause, maybe that’s something to consider. I wasn’t thinking of it as a question considered out of fear, but more out of wisdom. ie, “how’s this going to affect my reputation; my life story; my body?”

It’s hard you know- your body isn’t your own ever- it’s the Lords, and then it’s your spouse’s- if you ever get married. I know I wish I thought more about that before I met my husband. The longer I’m married, the more conservative I become regarding sexual activity before marriage.

Love to you!

Comment on Sould Christians Respect Obama? by reneamac

reneamac — Fri, 25 May 2012 16:19:24 +0000

Reblogged this on speak what we feel and commented:

It's voting season, a good time to remind ourselves of our responsibility toward respect for others (including politicians).

Comment on Is It Wise? by reneamac

reneamac — Fri, 25 May 2012 16:02:55 +0000

That surprises me — as in, the possibility of that reaction never crossed my mind… obviously, or I would have written about it. I dunno. I have mixed feelings about this. One the one hand, we can’t make choices in fear of what might hurt someone we don’t know yet, partly because making choices from fear is less than best and partly because too much of that kind of decision making (whether fear based or otherwise) would seem to create a preconceived notion of the unknown future spouse. On the other hand, I do think we can, and should, realize that our choices affect others, even unknown others, and we should try to treat those unknown others like we would want to be treated; we should love them as we love ourselves. So perhaps the best way to walk in the tension… …is to consider How would I feel if my future spouse… and then seek wise counsel (I’m such a thief) by asking solid, maybe married, folks whether how I would feel is healthy or unhealthy because we should avoid enabling our (and (unknown) others’) insecurities if that’s the root of our feelings.

Thank you for sharing and for bringing this up. I’m just shooting from the hip here. What do you think?

Comment on Is It Wise? by Rhett & Valerie

Rhett & Valerie — Thu, 24 May 2012 14:03:47 +0000

Hey you! Thanks for this great response. I might add…. if you don’t end up marrying this person, hearing about your sharing a room with them *might* really hurt your future spouse and cause them to struggle with anger, jealousy, and sadness (even if you don’t sleep together). I know it would make me struggle, and it’d take some work to move beyond feeling hurt by this. It’s worth a thought.

Comment on Question Tuesday: Summer Blockbusters by reneamac

reneamac — Wed, 23 May 2012 02:55:53 +0000

Right on. Agreed!

Comment on Question Tuesday: Summer Blockbusters by wtrey

wtrey — Wed, 23 May 2012 01:58:43 +0000

The new Dark Knight movie! SO excited about that.

Comment on Question Tuesday: Summer Blockbusters by reneamac

reneamac — Wed, 23 May 2012 01:50:02 +0000

Ha! Awesome.

Comment on Question Tuesday: Summer Blockbusters by Christine

Christine — Wed, 23 May 2012 01:25:48 +0000

I’m looking forward to Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Slayer.